A pep-talk

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Pep talks are key to my success. Business leaders or others might call it ‘casting vision’ for what you’re about to do. To make meetings less boring I (try to remember to) remind my staff why this meeting is important. It’s not just us sitting here for an hour and a half wasting our time, it’s because the decisions we will make in that hour and a half will impact our achievements that week and could change the course of our year entirely. That hour and a half could change our jobs, it could impact the world.

I don’t think we can have success in very much without pep talks or vision. Without being reminded of why we’re doing things, it’s so easily to get lost in the what or the why does this suck? of present reality. This is why I loved this pep talk by Chris Baty, the founder of Nanowrimo. It’s a bit long, but it’s worth the read. The last few days I’ve been feeling my novel is crappy (it was never meant to be published), more than crappy, I still had 30,000 words to write and very little plot space left to achieve what I wanted. I made some changes, but the writing was ARDUOUS at best. At the beginning, I was pumping out my daily 1,667 words in under an hour. Yesterday it took me THREE.

I needed someone to remind me that it will get better. Because it does. While this could be a pep-talk for life as well (it usually does get better), I’m reminded of the importance of vision and having people around me to encourage me, who are rooting for me to succeed. Do you have those people?

Here’s Chris’s pep talk:

You’re watching a movie. And halfway through it, the hero crumbles.

He or she is lost. Surrounded by zombies or forsaken by love or separated from their favorite wookiee. They stare forlornly at the mess their life has become, hope fading that things will ever be put right again.

Screenwriters call this moment “the long, dark night of the soul.” Every Hollywood movie has one because we love seeing our protagonists pummeled for a while before they pick themselves up, dust themselves off, and head out to kick some ass.

NaNoWriMo participants go through their own long, dark nights of the soul halfway through November. If you haven’t experienced one already, you will very soon.

I say this with certainty because we’ve spent a lot of time and money making the middle stretch of this year’s adventure especially difficult.

We don’t have the costumes or the makeup budget to send a convincing-looking group of zombies to your door. Instead, we’ve relied on smaller, cheaper things to demoralize you mid-month. We’ve convinced your bosses and teachers to heap projects on you at the last minute. We’ve gotten your family to pitch fits when you need to get caught up on your word count. Most insidiously, we’ve paid your novel’s cast to stumble through their scenes with all the eloquence and charm of a baked potato.

Why? Because we have to do something to make your novel-in-a-month endeavor a fair fight. Which it isn’t. Look at you! You’re a fantastically gifted individual, with fierce courage and an imagination powerful enough to knock out a dozen books in November.

If you don’t believe me, just scroll back through all you’ve written so far. That’s more than most people achieve in a year, and you did it in two weeks. It may be less than you’d hoped, and the quality may be crappier than you’d envisioned. But first drafts are supposed to be rough, and I guarantee you’re too deep in the process right to recognize all the great stuff you’ve put on those pages. Despite our meddling, you’ve achieved a truck-load of literary goodness. And it’s just a taste of what’s ahead.

Because the second half of this noveling marathon is when things really begin to move. For starters, the NaNoWriMo-funded interference will end. This is partly because we’ve realized the whole “fair fight” thing was a dumb idea, and partly because we blew all of our harassment budget on yesterday’s spectacularly unsuccessful attempt to crash every word processor in Manitoba.

Shenanigans aside, the back half of NaNoWriMo has always been a place where writers get their second winds. As long as you keep working, your potatoes will turn back into charismatic protagonists, and your imagination will build a path right out of these mid-month doldrums.

You can help build that path faster by hitting your writing goals for the next three days. This may sound like a small thing, but little, consistent writing achievements open the door to huge writing breakthroughs.

If you’ve fallen behind on your word count or lost the thread of your story, you may think no breakthrough will be big enough to save your book. Take heart: There are 300,000 of us out there right now living that exact same movie. We’re all struggling to balance our books with the crazy stuff life has chucked at us these past two weeks. We’re all wondering if we have what it takes to see this thing through. And we’re all about to stand up, dust ourselves off, and go kick some major ass.

The long, dark night is ending, my friend. The homestretch lies ahead.

I’ll see you at the finish line.

Chris

Couch to half-marathon: my friend Gloria

Remember when I said I would run that 10K? It’s thanks to Gloria’s inspiration. Let me introduce you. We met in university and together we were quite the pair of laziness and sloth. Whenever we hung out we would talk about all the TV shows we watched and food we ate. Glo would drive me crazy because she would talk about sitting around and watching TV all day and still get better marks than me! Athleticism wasn’t really something we ever admitted to aspiring to. So you can imagine my amazement when she I started hearing her talk about running, distance running, and liking it. Glo is an inspiration to me for this reason. She’s a real “Couch to 5k+” spokesperson. I wanted to know more about how she got to where she is now. I hope this encourages you to hit the pavement as much as it does me!
Tell me a bit about your life before you started running. What were your hobbies? Were you in shape (you can define what that means)? Did you feel healthy?
It still amazes me that I can consider myself a “runner” or athletic. I really consider myself a “bed living” type of person; I still do! (that has not changed). However, before running, I had just moved to a new country after graduating and started a new career (teaching internationally). A lot of hobbies that I did in this new phase of life (and still do) include watching tv shows and documentaries (I am a proud nerd), shopping, explore sketchy parts of Asia, hang out with friends, photography, and finding out where delicious restaurants to eat at were. The first year of life in HK was stressful and since I like to eat my feelings, I think I gained weight. I’ve always been overweight my whole life, so I don’t think I was ever in shape. There have been moments in my life where I felt healthier such as joining the gym for a couple of months or doing more active things, but I’ve never seen myself as in shape. I guess for me being in shape, I always pictured those models in SHAPE magazine or the personal trainers as people who were in shape. My measurement of being in shape was that if I could just get to that level where people were so fit that they no longer felt pain when they exercised, then I would be “in shape”. I have since learned otherwise.
How did you usually spend your free time? 
In my free time, I was usually prepping for my lessons, marking, and all the other wonderful things you have to do before you show up to class to teach. I also traveled a lot during my holidays, playing the tourist in places like Thailand, India, China, Malaysia, Singapore, etc. During my everyday life, I would end up hanging out with friends, catching a movie, learning how to cook, going dancing, going to concerts, the usual 20-something single girl life!
What made you decide to start running?
I had joined this gym called Pure in Hong Kong with a bunch of coworkers and we were trying to be active together (often, we would end up having a snack or dinner after the gym hahha… probably defeated the purpose of working out ahha). Anyways, so I was at the gym for about 6 months and I stumbled upon this program called Couch to 5K and somehow I got it in my head that I really wanted to do this program. I didn’t really tell anyone, but thought to myself “hey…it’d be cool if I could run 5k” and I started to do that at my gym, on this fancy treadmill that had a TV screen attached to it so I could watch my favourite shows while I ran. I think I was inspired by blogs that I was randomly reading (yes, stalking strangers is beneficial sometimes) and also I just wanted to do something new and for myself.
Can you tell me a bit about those initial stages? Did you want to quit?
It was really really really really really really hard. Really. I remember when I first start doing the Couch to 5k program, I didn’t really follow the time frame that they would recommend for you to do at each level. I remember when I first started I couldn’t even run 90 seconds without feeling like I was about to die. But, because you work at your own level on the program, those 90 seconds of death is usually followed by 2 min of walking briskly that you could motivate yourself to continue. There were days where I wanted to quit, but the feeling of accomplishment that you finish the next level and also just feeling generally better during the day really motivated me to continue onwards. I also didn’t really tell anyone about my goal and initially just did it on an elliptical and then moved to a treadmill. I started to run outside after I reached running 5k largely to my athletic friends. They had asked me earlier to join them in their training. (They teach PE at my school and love like doing active things) They asked me if I would join them in their training on the track. Because I saw them as such hardcore athletes, I said to them, “well… when I reach 5k.” I really thought I would NOT reach 5k… and somehow I did (following my own schedule). They kept bothering me about how I reached 5k jogging non-stop and I started to run with them outside. My friend also showed me a beautiful route where I could run along the water and my outdoor running continued.
When did running start to become enjoyable? 
 I think running became enjoyable when I started to see changes in my body and recognized that when I went on runs, I actually felt better afterwards. I had quite a stressful year last year and one of the things that running did was help me literally run away from my problems (haha, not the best strategy). But it helped me to “ostrich” ** at least for 40 min and then come back with a renewed mindset. Sometimes I would also play Christian music and I would use that time for worship. I always knew I would never regret a run, so even when days went by or if I had a crappy run, I never regretted it. There also were slim moments during a longer run, where I actually enjoyed it (usually only around the 3k-4k mark or the 7k-8k mark). I felt free and strong during those slight windows and the rest of the time I felt like I was either going to die or kill people who kept interrupting my run. (People in Hong Kong are not runner friendly at all).
Why do you keep running?
I always have a love/hate relationship with running. I hate how with each run that I feel like my legs are going to fall off, my shins hurt, and that I might at any moment stop breathing. (I’m a tad dramatic). I hate the heat and the people who are always in my way when I run. However, I LOVE how i feel so free while running, how incredible God’s created your body to be, how I feel so much better afterwards, and how I just feel strong and independent. I also have gone on runs as an escape and to clear my head and usually when i get all girly and emotional, running helps return me back to normal.
Do you have any tips for a beginner?
I always tell people that if I can run, anyone can run. Seriously! I am the queen of couch potatoes and bed living. If I could have an invisible hover craft, I would totally use it. Some tips to get started is to set small reachable goals for yourself:
I really recommend doing the Couch to 5k program. It is so easy to follow and you can adapt it to fit your own pace. You also can see how far you’ve come from doing the program. A lot of times people get discouraged because they run way too fast to run consistently. Slow down your pace and see running as something that you can do.
Also, every run is different. If you have a bad run one day, it doesn’t mean you suck. It just means your body might have needed to rest or the weather was too hot/cold or you just had a bad run. I actually just ran my First 10k run on Sunday (I decided to run a half-marathon race before actually running a 10k race… go big or go home i guess). However, running that 10k was so painful and it just reminded me again that each run is different and also to be consistent in my training because I have definitely been slacking lately.
If it helps, use technology. My friends also gave me a Nike+ watch for my birthday and this is when I discovered the plethora of technology that is out there to help you continue running. It was really awesome to have a record of my runs and also how long and how fast I was able to go. You can also download the Nike+ app for free on your phone and it’s just a simple and effective way to keep you motivated and also see a record of your achievement. You can even sync it so other people have “races” with you or running challenges.
Anything else you’d like to share with a new runner/someone trying to reach a goal?
I really recommend finding a running buddy or signing up for races to compete in. I have really close friends in HK who have exposed to a new world of athleticism in terms of how they live their life as well as their interests.They would literally promise me cooked meals to get me to go run with them and also teach me simple and effective tools such as “breathe through your nose” and “slow down your pace” when I felt like giving up. Having someone to run next to you can also motivate you to keep going and reach your goal.
Another way that really helped me take running a bit more seriously (as well as make me scared/freaked out a bit) was signing up for a race. My athletic friend somehow convinced me last year that for my first race EVER that I could run a half-marathon. So from August 2011-November 2011, I took my training up a notch because I had signed up for this half-marathon. I definitely ran more consistently. On race day, you definitely feel so accomplished and get into the whole running culture that is out there. I’ve also tied running to some of my interests. I’ve made it a point to do some sort of running in the different places I’ve travelled to, just so I can say…. I ran on the beaches of Bali, somewhere random in Malaysia, on the Brooklyn Bridge in NYC, on a treadmill in India, near red fields in Prince Edward Island…. Running is like any other exercise, you have to find some sort of intrinsic motivation (for me that’s the feeling better, ability to run away from my problems in a healthy way, running in random places) as well as some extrinsic motivation (friends who shame you for too much bed living and then sign you up for random races).
I am going to run my 2nd half-marathon in December. I don’t know what I’m thinking because currently I almost felt like I couldn’t even finish a 10k. However, with running half of it is mental. Mind over matter. So don’t give up! Think you can do it and eventually you can!!! And if I can do it (practically the ambassador for coach potatoes), you can do it!
That’s it, I’m out to go for a run. Actually.
**to ostrich is to stick your head in the sand as a coping mechanism for stress and difficult situations. 
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